Covid almost spells Divorce! (backwards)
By Michael Ruben
STRESS ON MARRIAGE
Endless Lockdown
Living in a virtual reality
Boredom, lethargy, depression and anxiety
Monotonous existence, cooking, binge watching, working
LIMITED RELATIONSHIPS:
Less social interaction with family and friends
Simple social interactions disappear: shopping, post office, coffee
Workplace interactions by Zoom
NO FUN; NO:
Eating out at restaurants
School
Attending sporting events and concerts
Regular gym work outs
Religious service attendance
Vacations and travel
ALL OF WHICH CREATES:
Increased irritability
Sadness or depression
Low energy
Loss of joie de vie
Inertia
Anxiety
SO HOW DO YOU KEEP YOURSELF AND YOUR RELATIONSHIP STRONG IN THE FACE OF THESE HEADWINDS?
Take time for yourself, meditate, listen to music, read, exercise
Do new things…take a walk, but in a new place
Cook some new foods, experiment, spice up your life
Be creative…play or learn an instrument, do an art project
Zoom with people you do not always talk with
Create a new and different environment for intimacy and affection, set aside time for this on a regular basis
Take a news break
Practice gratitude and loving kindness
PRACTICE ACTIVE LOVING
Listen to your partner
Observe your and your partners thoughts and feelings
Validate your love, care and admiration for your partner
Embrace those you love